Once you get past the initial acceptance of the fact that you are an infertile couple, you are 1 in 8, you can start easing off the anxiety breaks and start laughing about it a little bit. If you don't you will be sincerely miserable at all times because having a baby is all you will think about, it will constantly be on your mind 24/7 so you've gotta learn to laugh a little bit about it. Even though it's a serious disease that causes so much heartache, we can always force a smile through the tears thanks to infertility humor in the form of eCards.
The more you start to learn about infertility, the more you start to realize it's really a community and a culture. You'll start finding blogs and Instagram-ers & other social media outlets to follow & you'll start delving a little bit further, submersing yourself into that culture. You'll start using acronyms for everything. You'll refer to your miserable, old, AF (Aunt Flow), you'll talk about how you got a SMILEY face today on your OPK (Ovulation Predictor Kit), you'll say that you will BD (Baby Dance) with your DH (Dear Husband), and sometimes you might get a little graphic and talk about your CM (cervical mucous) or your FMU (First Morning Urine). If you'd like to learn some more fun acronyms, check out my TTC Baby Ridley Timeline & Dictionary page that I made specifically to help others decipher what the heck I'm talking about half the time.
Then there are the costs of being treated for infertility. I can't say much about it because I have insurance coverage for infertility treatments. Even with coverage, it's amazing how much some of these procedures and medications can cost. The laparoscopy I had back in October was $20,000, with insurance I paid $575. The first time that I used Follistim, they gave me 900iu which is basically three vile's which cost me about $488. The 3rd time I needed it, it was no longer covered by insurance and 300iu was going to cost $500 out of pocket. This is why I switched to Gonal F. I was able to get a coupon from my doctor and only paid $4 for 600iu. I just read an IVF statistic that the average cost is between $8,000-$10,000 and can take an average of three cycles to get a positive. I know that I am very blessed and it's very rare to have insurance coverage for infertility. I'm not sure without the coverage how we would be paying for it or if we would so willingly be moving forward with IVF. There are some wonderful grants and different financial assistance programs available to those who are in need of some additional funding. There are also couples who have fundraisers that you can donate to. One that is near and dear to my heart is my beautiful friend Jessah @ Dreaming of Dimples. Her "Piece our Family Together" Puzzle Fundraiser is one of the best ideas I've ever heard of. For your gift of $25 (or more), your name and/or family's name will be written on the back of a puzzle piece. As all of the pieces have names, the puzzle will be assembled. Jessah will be updating her blog with the progress of the puzzle as it is formed so you can see the beautiful puzzle you're helping to create for their baby. What an amazing and beautiful way to honor those who have donated. I urge you to (if you can!) to help those who are collecting donations. The financial burden of these procedures and treatments can cause many people to not move forward because the costs are just too high. Many people spend their entire life savings on these procedures.
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