On Sunday we held a baby shower for my best friend and SIL, Jodie. This is her 3rd baby, her other two kids Jonathan & Jocelyn who are now 8 and 7. Jodie deserved a really nice shower because she had her first two when we were in our really early 20’s and we never got to throw her a proper shower. I hosted her first shower for her, but I don’t even think she registered and her second shower we had people bring gifts for mom, there were only a handful of us at both of those showers so I’m really happy that we were finally able to give her the shower she deserved.
dessert table with the owl prints I got from Etsy for the nursery!
head table center piece
Joe's mom came up with these adorable favor bags made from the same Etsy prints above!
Love the wall art and ceramic owl from Hobby Lobby!
Everything went perfect. Lots of people showed up, she got lots of stuff off of her registry, the food was great, I had lots of help from my co-hosts & Jodie was really happy with the way it all turned out and everything that she got. We can’t wait to meet baby Johanna in just a few short weeks! I can’t wait to keep spoiling her!
I thought that I would touch on hosting a baby shower as an infertile because it’s a subject that I see in the TTC community all the time. It can be a quite a struggle for some to go out and buy items for a baby and have to attend a shower while dealing with infertility. It can be heartbreaking to have to watch someone be in the position that you've been trying to be in for years. For me, it was the opposite; I did not have one moment of sadness, jealousy, anger, or any other negative emotion that could be tied to the situation. I had a blast going to buy stuff for the baby filling my basket up so full I could hardly carry it. It was so much fun to plan the shower and watch it all come together.
I am so happy for my best friend and her family. There is no reason that I wouldn't be. I would never take the circumstances of my situation out on her, however there was a point in time where this would've been a lot harder for me. I have taken the circumstances of my situation out on a friend before. It was early on in our journey before we had seen an RE, before we had any answers, but that does not excuse my behavior at that time. The fences of that friendship have been mended and when I think about that time in my life I realize the tremendous amount of progress and growth that has been made and I’m proud of myself for that and thankful to my support system, my doctor’s, and the TTC community for helping me get where I am today—To the point of sincerity and authenticity in my feelings towards others who are pregnant.
I had to wonder at the same time what everyone else at the shower was thinking about how I might be feeling hosting a baby shower, holding baby Jase, buying all this baby stuff, etc. You hope that people aren't thinking, “I wonder if this is hard for her,” or “I can’t imagine how bad she is feeling right now”, because I’m honestly not. I didn't feel bad and it wasn't hard. It was my pleasure to host the shower, it’s my pleasure to hold baby Jase and get to be a part of his life and have his mom refer to me as “auntie Lena”. It really means a lot to me to be able to be in that position and be there for my friends and family.
I know that this can be a very sensitive subject and a very complicated piece of the infertility puzzle, there are a lot of mixed emotions about these things that make them even harder. Everyone’s experiences are different and I do sympathize with those who just can’t bring themselves to attend a baby shower because it’s just simply too hard. I am just thankful that my experience has been such a positive one and I hope that it can be for others in the same situation.