Monday, September 29, 2014

IVF Round 3/FET Round 2


Today was our WTF appointment with Dr. G.  Joe was unable to go because he is really busy with work right now and couldn't take the time off so my mom decided to join me so she could finally meet Dr. G and his team.  I was happy to have the moral support and a second ear.

We went over all of our stats, we have 5 remaining early blastocysts left, all AA grade.  I've responded perfectly to the Lupron and all other medications.  What it basically boils down to is that having multiple failed cycles of IVF in the world of science is normal and, although it's hard not to feel discouraged, we shouldn't according to our doctor.  The IVF success rate is 40% which is good, but it leaves a 60% chance of failure.  Dr. G is still confident that this will work for us.  We discussed transferring two embryos, but I told him I was only comfortable with one and he agreed with me.  

I did ask my list of questions starting with an endo scratch and an endo biopsy, neither of which he said is proven to contribute to IVF success and he does not recommend.  He said that if we did do a biopsy that we would have to wait another cycle after the biopsy was performed because the endometrium would be damaged during the procedure. 

We discussed the PDG testing of the embryos, but with only one left that was fertilized via ICSI and with it already being a day-5 embryo, we cannot test it.  We talked about another fresh cycle with possible testing, but said that since we had genetic blood work done on ourselves already that he doesn't recommend another fresh cycle because of the results of that testing, my age, and my health.  He basically said that in 36 years they've come long way with IVF, but all that they can do is make the embryo, place it back inside, and wait to see what happens, they have no control once that embryo is inside the uterus.  It's up to your body and nature to perform and if an embryo is abnormal, chances are it's not going to implant.  He said that over 50% of embryos are abnormal and most of the time the body will reject those embryos since the whole point of our reproductive system is to create a healthy baby that will eventually be able to reproduce.  There are of course, some exceptions to this, and there is always a chance that an abnormal embryo could implant. 

What we've basically decided is to move forward with another frozen transfer in the exact same way that we did with the last transfer.  I haven't gotten a date yet, but I am supposed to call tomorrow to speak with the IVF nurse coordinator and make the arrangements.  It should be at the end of October, early November.

I feel confident and happy with the consultation and the decision to move forward.  Dr. G has been in the business for a long time, he has a great sense of humor, and if he is confident in me as a patient then I am confident in him as my doctor.  Although I was a little disappointed initially about not doing any of the testing that I had inquired about, I didn't feel any doubt as I left the appointment.  We are still taking a chance by not having our embryos tested for chromosomal abnormalities, but that is a chance that I'm willing to take at this time.  Out of 7 of our embryos we have used 2.  With a 50% chance of abnormality, we are still taking a gamble.  Dr. G said that my "unlimited" insurance coverage is another reason to jump right into another cycle and after our discussion today, for now, I am OK with everything and ready to move forward with this next transfer. 

IVF Round 3/FET Round 2


Today was our WTF appointment with Dr. G.  Joe was unable to go because he is really busy with work right now and couldn't take the time off so my mom decided to join me so she could finally meet Dr. G and his team.  I was happy to have the moral support and a second ear.

We went over all of our stats, we have 5 remaining early blastocysts left, all AA grade.  I've responded perfectly to the Lupron and all other medications.  What it basically boils down to is that having multiple failed cycles of IVF in the world of science is normal and, although it's hard not to feel discouraged, we shouldn't according to our doctor.  The IVF success rate is 40% which is good, but it leaves a 60% chance of failure.  Dr. G is still confident that this will work for us.  We discussed transferring two embryos, but I told him I was only comfortable with one and he agreed with me.  

I did ask my list of questions starting with an endo scratch and an endo biopsy, neither of which he said is proven to contribute to IVF success and he does not recommend.  He said that if we did do a biopsy that we would have to wait another cycle after the biopsy was performed because the endometrium would be damaged during the procedure. 

We discussed the PDG testing of the embryos, but with only one left that was fertilized via ICSI and with it already being a day-5 embryo, we cannot test it.  We talked about another fresh cycle with possible testing, but said that since we had genetic blood work done on ourselves already that he doesn't recommend another fresh cycle because of the results of that testing, my age, and my health.  He basically said that in 36 years they've come long way with IVF, but all that they can do is make the embryo, place it back inside, and wait to see what happens, they have no control once that embryo is inside the uterus.  It's up to your body and nature to perform and if an embryo is abnormal, chances are it's not going to implant.  He said that over 50% of embryos are abnormal and most of the time the body will reject those embryos since the whole point of our reproductive system is to create a healthy baby that will eventually be able to reproduce.  There are of course, some exceptions to this, and there is always a chance that an abnormal embryo could implant. 

What we've basically decided is to move forward with another frozen transfer in the exact same way that we did with the last transfer.  I haven't gotten a date yet, but I am supposed to call tomorrow to speak with the IVF nurse coordinator and make the arrangements.  It should be at the end of October, early November.

I feel confident and happy with the consultation and the decision to move forward.  Dr. G has been in the business for a long time, he has a great sense of humor, and if he is confident in me as a patient then I am confident in him as my doctor.  Although I was a little disappointed initially about not doing any of the testing that I had inquired about, I didn't feel any doubt as I left the appointment.  We are still taking a chance by not having our embryos tested for chromosomal abnormalities, but that is a chance that I'm willing to take at this time.  Out of 7 of our embryos we have used 2.  With a 50% chance of abnormality, we are still taking a gamble.  Dr. G said that my "unlimited" insurance coverage is another reason to jump right into another cycle and after our discussion today, for now, I am OK with everything and ready to move forward with this next transfer. 

Friday, September 26, 2014

Friday Favorites & Fertility Friday



So I'm going to be combining my Friday posts this week because I think both of these link ups are fab and I want to participate in both.  Hopefully that's not breaking any rules! So, linking up with Amanda and Jessah today!

Fertility Forefront:
So this week I started BCP on Monday.  CD1 was Saturday and when I called to report cycle start, she told me to start BCP ASAP.  I know that this cycle could be postponed, but we won't know for sure until after our consultation next Monday.  I'm anxious to get some answers about some of the testing that I'd like to have done before we move on to IVF cycle #3.  


Also, just a quick shout out to my girl Rachael @ Unnaturally Knocked Up for the sweet gift after my BFN last week.  She sent me a Penelope the Piggie, it's so sweet and such a unique gift.  I love the TTC community and my sisters!  So thoughtful!


Favorite Moment:
Getting the windows and doors installed on the house!  We are going to have a lot to keep our minds off of TTC and IVF for the next few months and I'm hoping that those distractions might make this next cycle less stressful  Maybe taking my mind off of the process will be better.  I'm so happy with the way that everything has turned out so far.  Just beautiful!  Also, our 3 year anniversary was Wednesday!  Can't believe its been 3 years already!

complementary chocolate sundae for our 3 years!  thank you Bartley's!




first professional photo of us by the house right after it was excavated!  We were doing some shooting that day! 

Favorite Pin:
so in love with this jacket!

Favorite Thing I'm looking Forward To:
Our WTF appointment on Monday, dinner for a friends 30th birthday this weekend, our electric service being installed finally (I know, kinda lame!) and hopefully getting to see my bestie and baby Jase this weekend!  I haven't gotten to see or spend much time with them lately and I miss them!

Favorite Funnies:







Friday Favorites & Fertility Friday



So I'm going to be combining my Friday posts this week because I think both of these link ups are fab and I want to participate in both.  Hopefully that's not breaking any rules! So, linking up with Amanda and Jessah today!

Fertility Forefront:
So this week I started BCP on Monday.  CD1 was Saturday and when I called to report cycle start, she told me to start BCP ASAP.  I know that this cycle could be postponed, but we won't know for sure until after our consultation next Monday.  I'm anxious to get some answers about some of the testing that I'd like to have done before we move on to IVF cycle #3.  


Also, just a quick shout out to my girl Rachael @ Unnaturally Knocked Up for the sweet gift after my BFN last week.  She sent me a Penelope the Piggie, it's so sweet and such a unique gift.  I love the TTC community and my sisters!  So thoughtful!


Favorite Moment:
Getting the windows and doors installed on the house!  We are going to have a lot to keep our minds off of TTC and IVF for the next few months and I'm hoping that those distractions might make this next cycle less stressful  Maybe taking my mind off of the process will be better.  I'm so happy with the way that everything has turned out so far.  Just beautiful!  Also, our 3 year anniversary was Wednesday!  Can't believe its been 3 years already!

complementary chocolate sundae for our 3 years!  thank you Bartley's!




first professional photo of us by the house right after it was excavated!  We were doing some shooting that day! 

Favorite Pin:
so in love with this jacket!

Favorite Thing I'm looking Forward To:
Our WTF appointment on Monday, dinner for a friends 30th birthday this weekend, our electric service being installed finally (I know, kinda lame!) and hopefully getting to see my bestie and baby Jase this weekend!  I haven't gotten to see or spend much time with them lately and I miss them!

Favorite Funnies:







Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Happy 3 Year Anniversary! (To Us!)


Happy anniversary Joe!  I can’t believe that it has been 3 years since our wedding.  It feels like it was just yesterday and I’m actually thankful for that because it was such a fun wedding and I’m so happy that I remember it so vividly, even after all those mimosas and sangria’s I drank all day.  Our wedding was stress-free and care-free.  Of course wedding planning was not either of those things, but our actual wedding day was.  The rain held off, everything went smooth, and we had so much fun.  I danced my ass off, playing with sparklers and drinking champagne out of the bottle.  My MOH had her dress on practically backward by the end of the night, there was lots of great memories from that night that I will never forget. 

love my dress!
25 bottles of champagne drank by 7PM, reception started at 6
our rings on some giant orchids that lined the aisle

In 3 years we have been through a lot more than I ever expected.  Things didn’t go according to the plan that I envisioned in my head, and now we are on a different path that I could never have imagined.  It’s a path that is making our marriage, already built on a strong foundation, even stronger, but today I don’t want to focus on infertility because that is not what defines our marriage.  There’s a lot more to the Ridley’s than that!

love that we incorporated our bike, this is the bike we'd wreck on 6 months later...
loved my dress and my cascade of orchids so much!
my handsome husband, so proud to call him MINE!
my favorite picture of me... ever.
all the groomsmen rode their motorcycles to the wedding
our grand entrance, sparklers and all! 

If I had to pick some words to define our marriage I would pick strong, adventurous, fun, & loving. We've had to endure some tough times as a couple, 6 months in as newlyweds we got into a motorcycle accident, it was a lot to deal with and something that helped strengthen us as a couple as I relied heavily on Joe and his family, his dad especially, to help me get around, help with the dog, etc. since they were our neighbors and I’m so thankful to them and the rest of our family & friends for all they did for us during that time.  I consider us to be adventurous because we absolutely love to take the bike and go, I wish that we got to do as much riding this summer as we did last.  It’s something that we both find true joy in and we experience that joy together.  We love to travel not only on the bike but also take vacation, cruises especially and explore beautiful destinations together.  We've always had lots of fun together, it just comes naturally for us and I think that's how you know you're meant to for each other.  At this moment we are having so much fun building our house and picking out all the details.  It has been majorly stressful too, but it’s been more fun and more rewarding than anything I can imagine and I can’t wait to see it all come together.  And of course, last but not least loving, I think that’s a word that should describe any successful marriage.  We have lots of love for each other that grows every single day with each struggle, with each fight, with each laugh, with each accomplishment.

our first dance
 me and my dad
we danced
 and danced...
and danced...
 and danced some more!
this is one of my favorite pics from the wedding, all of my favorite ladies in one photo!




3 down already with so much more in store for us over our lifetime.  I don’t think that we’ve even began to scratch the surface of what is to come for us.  Between seeing our house being built and finished and hopefully welcoming some children into our lives, I can’t wait to see what else our future holds.  We’ve faced challenges from the beginning and there is no one else that I’d rather face those challenges with than Joe.  He is such a genuine person who has always been himself and allowed me to be myself and that is so important in a relationship.  Our marriage has grown over the years for the best and I know that will continue as we make this journey together.  Here’s to 3 down and forever to go!

Happy 3 Year Anniversary! (To Us!)


Happy anniversary Joe!  I can’t believe that it has been 3 years since our wedding.  It feels like it was just yesterday and I’m actually thankful for that because it was such a fun wedding and I’m so happy that I remember it so vividly, even after all those mimosas and sangria’s I drank all day.  Our wedding was stress-free and care-free.  Of course wedding planning was not either of those things, but our actual wedding day was.  The rain held off, everything went smooth, and we had so much fun.  I danced my ass off, playing with sparklers and drinking champagne out of the bottle.  My MOH had her dress on practically backward by the end of the night, there was lots of great memories from that night that I will never forget. 

love my dress!
25 bottles of champagne drank by 7PM, reception started at 6
our rings on some giant orchids that lined the aisle

In 3 years we have been through a lot more than I ever expected.  Things didn’t go according to the plan that I envisioned in my head, and now we are on a different path that I could never have imagined.  It’s a path that is making our marriage, already built on a strong foundation, even stronger, but today I don’t want to focus on infertility because that is not what defines our marriage.  There’s a lot more to the Ridley’s than that!

love that we incorporated our bike, this is the bike we'd wreck on 6 months later...
loved my dress and my cascade of orchids so much!
my handsome husband, so proud to call him MINE!
my favorite picture of me... ever.
all the groomsmen rode their motorcycles to the wedding
our grand entrance, sparklers and all! 

If I had to pick some words to define our marriage I would pick strong, adventurous, fun, & loving. We've had to endure some tough times as a couple, 6 months in as newlyweds we got into a motorcycle accident, it was a lot to deal with and something that helped strengthen us as a couple as I relied heavily on Joe and his family, his dad especially, to help me get around, help with the dog, etc. since they were our neighbors and I’m so thankful to them and the rest of our family & friends for all they did for us during that time.  I consider us to be adventurous because we absolutely love to take the bike and go, I wish that we got to do as much riding this summer as we did last.  It’s something that we both find true joy in and we experience that joy together.  We love to travel not only on the bike but also take vacation, cruises especially and explore beautiful destinations together.  We've always had lots of fun together, it just comes naturally for us and I think that's how you know you're meant to for each other.  At this moment we are having so much fun building our house and picking out all the details.  It has been majorly stressful too, but it’s been more fun and more rewarding than anything I can imagine and I can’t wait to see it all come together.  And of course, last but not least loving, I think that’s a word that should describe any successful marriage.  We have lots of love for each other that grows every single day with each struggle, with each fight, with each laugh, with each accomplishment.

our first dance
 me and my dad
we danced
 and danced...
and danced...
 and danced some more!
this is one of my favorite pics from the wedding, all of my favorite ladies in one photo!




3 down already with so much more in store for us over our lifetime.  I don’t think that we’ve even began to scratch the surface of what is to come for us.  Between seeing our house being built and finished and hopefully welcoming some children into our lives, I can’t wait to see what else our future holds.  We’ve faced challenges from the beginning and there is no one else that I’d rather face those challenges with than Joe.  He is such a genuine person who has always been himself and allowed me to be myself and that is so important in a relationship.  Our marriage has grown over the years for the best and I know that will continue as we make this journey together.  Here’s to 3 down and forever to go!
 
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